You're Not Processing Your Emotions, You're Ruminating

Thinking about your feelings won’t help you move forward

“We seem great on paper,” he said, “but I have feelings for someone else.” That’s how a relationship in my twenties ended — one sentence, over the phone.

We’d dated for only two months but I replayed that sentence for a year. I spent my free time re-reading our texts, searching for the moment something shifted. I dissected his word choices like they were…