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Timothy Patrick's avatar

Thank you, Marie. I love this article. It helped me organize my thoughts a bit on our current moment. MAGA patriotism, with the flag waving over the overt displays of cruelty, is the most hollow. It only loves the country when the country flatters them back. It’s the parent who loves their kid for getting a trophy but goes cold the second the kid struggles. Love like that isn’t really love.

For MAGA, a white man who took up arms against the USA to keep the right to own human beings gets folded back into the family of patriots, statue and all. A Black man who kneels to say the country hasn’t always kept its promise is a traitor. The actual treason of slavery is too embarrassing to mention, so it gets forgiven as ancient history, while the protest that hurts nobody becomes the ultimate betrayal of pointing out the charade. So fragile.

And it’s not like MAGA has no complaints about America. They’re just nimble mental gymnasts about it. Anyone they disagree with gets redefined as un-American, so they never have to admit they’re criticizing their own country as they burn it all down.

I often think about a call I made while phone banking for Prop 50 a few months back, which was an effort by California to respond to the nationwide mid-decade MAGA gerrymandering scheme. A Black guy picked up, immediately furious with me, done with voting and done with Democrats for letting MAGA win again in 2024. He needed to vent more than he needed my script, so I dropped the script, told him I shared his anger, and asked him what was on his mind. He let loose for about five minutes, then another voice cut in. He was on speakerphone in his car, and his girlfriend, a loyal Democrat, was livid he’d hand the country to MAGA for good. She got her five minutes too. I told them they were both right, that I wasn’t there to tell anyone how to think, and that the only reason I was giving up my weekend to get yelled at by strangers was that I love this country too much to watch it fall apart. Then he flipped. I don’t think anyone had let him say all of it in a long time. Before he hung up he said he was going to start voting again. I put the phone down and TBH I might have cried a little bit, feeling like something really real had just happened. Ignore the white savior part of that story, because there’s an important lesson. I didn’t change his mind or anything. The patriotism was already there. It had just gotten buried under what seems like a lot of political trauma, and being heard by his girlfriend and me cleared that block.

I guess what I’m trying to say is fights over who counts as patriotic aren’t just semantics. Sometimes hearing someone out who has had a different experience is the whole point, and it can show them that they do love the country already. Does that mean loving MAGA too? Hell no!! But you can still love the USA even if you’re well aware of our collective shortcomings as a country. In fact, I’d assert the opposite: you can’t really love the USA if you don’t acknowledge the existence of a tension with its ideals. Otherwise, you’re cool with our current moment rhyming with the worst parts of our history. No thanks! Let’s keep inching towards something more perfect.

Jennifer Adams's avatar

Another beautiful essay, Marie. I feel like we could all learn a few lessons from Black Patriotism. It's really the best kind. It demands that we keep striving towards that more perfect union, that idea that still hasn't been fully realized.

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