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Emily's avatar

There is this persistent notion that children are "unaware" of differences and are only introduced to them by the adults in their lives, so it's not only unnecessary (but might even be considered inappropriate) to teach young children about differences in skin color, physical and mental abilities, or attraction to people who are the same sex.

But of course kids notice differences in skin and hair color. Of course they notice if someone is a glasses wearer or wheelchair user. Of course they often get their first crushes around the same time they're learning to read. Kids notice differences because it's normal, and a sign of healthy human development is to be able to differentiate between the people, places, and things in your environment.

What is introduced to them is what those differences MEAN. A parent who hustles you away from the woman with Down Syndrome, or shushes your questions about a wheelchair user, is communicating that people with disabilities are not people to be acknowledged. A parent who gets uncomfortable with books about Black kids, or immigrant families, because you're "too young" is communicating that some people's lives are not important to know or learn about. A parent who says you "can't talk about" your aunt and her wife is communicating that your aunt's relationship is shameful. A child who is raised to believe that being white, straight, male, and able-bodied is just a neutral way of being, because everything else is a *variation* on that baseline, is going to have some hard re-learning to do when (and if) they finally realize that's not even remotely the case.

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My school system recently voted not to fight the federal ban on DEI language, citing loss of funding through legal fees would add to the loss of federal funding if we did. During my summative evaluation, I was praised for having a diverse classroom library for my student choice reading opportunities and making sure all students felt welcome and represented. My principal wrote it in a way that rearranged the words diversity, equity, and inclusion. We both laughed about tricking AI search bots that way, but there was also a feeling of truth behind that moment — a nuanced layer of fear and relief that we had actually incorporated a small safeguard by doing this. It’s disturbing.

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